Partner A is not physically your ‘spec’ but possesses all the innate qualities of someone right for you.
Partner B is your spec physically but lacks the essential qualities/characters of someone right for you.
As a sensible person, which will you go for?
As we grow mature, we understand opportunity costs more.
In life, the content you are looking for may not always come in the container you desire. It will be stupid of you to reject quality content because of the container.
The kind of man that can build a home may not always be Tall, Dark, and Handsome. The kind of woman that can build a home may not always be Curved, Assed, and Busty.
When you are still young and stupid, attraction to six packs may be primary for you. But as you get mature, you discover that six packs do not build a home.
Most of the “my spec” often end in tears. Most of them are people that you cannot be proud to have as the father/mother of your kids.
Most of the “my specs” are hungry wolves in sheep’s clothing who will eventually devour you to fill their empty stomachs.
Most of the “my specs” are broke, lazy, and entitled. They have nothing else to offer except a fake accent, fine face, and a body that will inevitably obey the Law of Diminishing Returns.
Your so-called “My Spec” may be the physical qualities you saw in your friend’s “My Spec” not necessarily your spec.
If you can soften the pedal on “my spec,” maybe you can recognize a real asset when you eventually find one. Stop throwing away gold because it doesn’t come in a diamond carton.
Ask your Dad, if he married your mum because she was “my spec.”
In your journey to financial freedom, you need a quality partner, not just your spec. Who you marry has a lot to do with whether you will leave the trenches or eventually return to the trenches.
Ask Emmanuel Eboue (ex-Arsenal Defender and ex-Ivorian Football star), choosing the right partner is very important for a successful financial journey.
The partner you eventually settle down with can make or mar you financially. If you marry a partner who is not committed to improving his or her Financial Quotient, your life can be a long financial struggle, regardless of how much you make.
You need a partner with whom you can unitedly build family wealth. You need a partner that can complement your financial weaknesses. You need a partner who will help you curb your bad money habits.
It is difficult to build wealth when you are married to a ‘social media’ partner who is more concerned about impressing her/his followers.
Your partner does not necessarily have to be a financial expert, but your financial goals must be compatible.
Does it mean that there are no responsible guys/ladies out there who are physically your spec? Of course, there are. But life does not always give you everything you want.
This life no balance.
If you are sincere with yourself, you will agree that you are single and getting old not because there are no responsible guys/ladies out there, but because you are waiting for your spec.
Keep searching.
© Kingsley Ndimele
Your Reliable Consultant