“I love you but I don’t think you can give me the kind of life I want.” May this never be your portion. It is true that nobody wants to suffer. Everyone is hustling hard to have a better life. Who no like better thing? However, we must remember that life is in stages.
Late marriage has become rampant today not only because of the current ‘sapademic’ economy but also because no babe is ready to build with a guy anymore.
You keep shouting “God when! God when!” but you have written off every serious guy that came to you because they do not have an appearance of a guy wey don hammer. You have not replied the serious guys that entered your DM because they don’t look like person wey don make am. You have even discouraged the serious guys with your long list of unrealistic requirements.
I met a lady who broke up with her guy because he could not afford a cinema ticket. You are 25 years old, while he is 27 years old. You graduated from the university the same year, went for NYSC together, yet you want him to have built a house, bought a car and be earning 500,000 naira as a fresh Nigerian graduate. No be juju be that? Even your father did not build his first house until he was about 50 years old.
Dear hustler, stop dating broke-minded entitled ladies who think everything should be paid by a man. Stop dating ladies who desire the internet standard of living. When you finally secure the bag, go for a lady who also took her time to develop herself.
Aunty, don’t let ‘Yahoo’ guys and ritualists make you feel that every legitimate hustler is a lazy person. The country is hard for everyone who is a legitimate hustler. Stop mounting your financial pressures on guys. You met a guy yesterday and you are already asking him to pay your house rent and buy you the latest iPhone. Dear, if you want a man that drives a car, you will find him where you parked yours.
Stop seeing every guy as an escape route from poverty. It is wickedness to expect a guy in his investment stage to live as if he is in his harvest stage. It is madness to expect somebody’s son to give you the kind of life that your father could not give you. It is unrealistic to eat your cake and have it.
In fact, even our so-called religious sisters now want a God-fearing guy with a touch of ‘yahoo.’ Aunty, 2021 is gone; you are still looking for a tall, handsome, wealthy guy. You are still looking for a financially stable guy. I have a bad news for you. Most guys below the age of 35 are not financially stable yet. Most guys below 35 are still raw materials; they are not ready-made guys.
The ideal man you are looking for only exist in Edo state – the countryhome of yahoo guys and Ogun state – the headquarters of ritualism. I understand that you endured poverty in your father’s house since childhood and you don’t want a poor guy in your life anymore.
Bae, it does not work out that way. If you are waiting for a ready-made guy that will walk you out of poverty; you will grow grey hair. Poverty is so stubborn. it takes time and conscious effort to break away; not a miraculous financial breakthrough disguised as an under 35 guy.
That I cannot afford a car today does not mean I won’t buy tomorrow. That I cannot take you out for vacation today does not mean that I am a boring guy. That I cannot send you urgent 2k today does not mean I am a stingy guy. If you don’t believe in me today, you don’t have a seat in my future.
Na lady wey appreciate my okirika today go follow me go shopping for Dubai tomorrow. As a Personal Finance Coach, I advise guys to live their life at their own pace. Don’t waste the little money you are hustling to get to impress a lady or convince her to stay. Date within your budget. Any lady that says you are not wealthy enough to be considered should move away.
Brother Titus, I understand that this can be very difficult especially when you have a strong spiritual conviction about a lady. At the same time, I need to remind you that our God is a God of substitute and alternatives. Where a lady is FUCKING UP, another lady is WARMING UP. Move on with your life. Stop trying to hold on to lady who is ashamed of your current financial status.
Nafessah agreed to stick to my friend even when he had nothing. You need to see their throwbacks. Last December, I attended their wedding. My friend is not as wealthy as he wishes yet, but he is not as broke as he used to be. Guess what? I was the life of the party.
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© Kingsley Ndimele
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